As we circumvent different places online, I have found out, a bad report can ruin your reputation, while a congenial one can get you in places you wouldn't other wise get into.
Never mind the fact that neither of them may be true. LOL. People are easy to be beguiled by scandal, gossip, and a 'secret'. I admit, that I am sensitive,and rumors have ruined my day, many a day. While I was envisioning myself to be making strides in new friendships, I later found out, my character was weakened by rumors from people who knew practically nothing about me, but were intimidated by my reputation. Yes, I can say that, now.
I was exiled by the same people whom I looked up to, who I respected beyond measure. Only to be told, 'not to trust me'. And, that hurt. But, not enough for me to stoop to their level.
I am able to abrogate people's penchant for scandal, and take myself out of their existence. Like Steve Harvey said, in his recent stand up act, "you'n love me, I'on love you...I know that ain't the christian way, but I ain't got there yet..." If I let people monopolize my views of myself, I won't even know myself if I walked down the street. LOL. I would pass me by, too. Especially if I heard some of the things about me, that I heard, and even thought for a minute to be true....
I imagine walking into a crowded room, introducing myself. No one knows me, and I start talking. No pre-conceived notions at all....
But, I know it will never happen, because everyone has a reputation. Even if it is good, or bad... So, we have to get used to people forming opinions about us, before they even meet us, and talk to us to verify these misconceptions...
Who am I?
Come and ask me...
Check me out for yourself!
HI! =) Nice to meet ya....
ReplyDeleteHi...my name is Adrienne, previously known as bitch, tramp, liar, and skeez bucket. None of those things were true, but that's the rep that someone put out. Not in the online community, but it still stained my professional rep.
ReplyDeleteThe Bible tells us not to do this to each other. We are to use wisdom but not while condemning others. I'm sorry people are labeling you. I have one for you: wonderful. I enjoy you and reading you. So whatever negativity you are encountering, please know at least one or two love you as is...because we see who you are.
Wyld...Hi Nice to meet you, too.
ReplyDeleteAdrienne, nice to meet you as well. Thank you for your vote of confidence in me, and my true character.
ReplyDeleteI did this as a dual writing assignment, for two groups. But it is an issue to me in many of my online circles that I travel around... Point I wanted to make that as we meet, greet, and exchange experiences, they do not 'paint us'. They are pictures. and just as peoples notions about us can be damaging, some can be held in too high esteem.
Bad praise can be just as bad as good parise on 'snaky personalities". I believe in getting to know people for yourself, or just don't bash them for no reason.
Most of my work is laced with a bit of truth, a pinch of personal experiences, and a lot of desire...
Hi, my name is Joyce....
~taking Adrienne's approach~ Hi, my name is Tonia aka slut, angry bitch, liar, fat ass...I too know that this is not true, but people say what they will to cover up their insecurities about you. The worst part of it all is most of these names were used against me by family and so-called friends. I used to let it affect my being because some of the reasons that gave them their conclusions of me could have been valid, but when people don't know why you make the choices you make in life, they tend to misjudge your choices. I for one have loved you from the the moment you spoke truth to me on 360 and nothing can change that. One thing I have learned about most of us out here is that we are merely searching for an outlet and if we manage to make friends along the way, consider it a bonus. I may not talk to any of you every single day, but I carry you in my heart. Joyce I have said that you are an observer and you live up to that...my 9 year old does the same thing and people call him weird, but I call him special because he has the gift of discernment just like you...when we did the odes you did really great because you took something that not many others had noticed about all and put it out there the way that you had sat back and seen it. I love your spirit in your writing and I love how well you dig into other's writings...you have a genuine appreciation for all sorts of people and that's love...keep doing you and let the haters hate...
ReplyDeletesorry so long winded, but I am bout ready to get grimy on some mo fos for fuckin' with my friend now...this helped to alleviate some of the anger...
ReplyDeleteDeesia, cut it out! You got me emotional...
ReplyDeleteTY for your words, and your faith in me. But, I always say, "let my work, my personality, and my consistency speak for me." ANd, not the words of angry, dis-illusioned cranks. It's so easy to use your voice to invoke good, or evil. it is easier to hide behind scandal..and much harder to actually believe in someone, online. Because we are seperated by screens, dont mean you are not real.
This makes me that much more proud of you, for being you..and loving yourself. You are beautiful..and dont let no onne tell you different!
I love you too Joyce and I have felt more warmth on this screen that I have felt from people that I deal with in reality which explains why I never seem to leave...LOL!!!
ReplyDeleteHi sis...I've seen online drama, and even myself been caught up in some without even trying to. Since making your aquaintance I can proudly say you are real and down to earth. I love you and only have positive things to say about you. Joyce you keep doing you. Those who have formed opinions about you without knowing you don't know what they are doing. You were my first 360 friend outside of my two former co-workers and Shawnie and you have always been consistently there with me from the beginning. You're my girl to the end!
ReplyDeletePeople will talk..everyone gets talked about..we must ask ourselves sometimes..is there truth to it? And if not is there something I'm doing to get misinterpreted time and time again? And alot of times you just have to brush it off and realize you can either be those words or eat them..plain and simple..I'm sure your source (the one telling you about what others were saying) had your best best interest...for some reason I can relate to some of your words in this piece..hmmmm
ReplyDeleteI ADDED YOU, because I heard good things. Someone asked if I had ever read your page and she told me you were one of the sweetest people she knew. SOOOOOOOO errrr uhhhh, other'n'at I haven't ever heard a negative word and I wouldn't listen to it anyway. I have to see for meself and I likes what I have seen...
ReplyDeleteJavelle..thank you for being you! You know me.
ReplyDeleteNikki....Thank you for getting expounding on the point that everyone talks..and its up to us what we believe....
MzLadee....that can only be a plus. Like someone said, stick around; you aint sen nothing yet. LOL...
This piece is only a dual writing assignment, trying to make the point of how much our real character would not know our reputation, if they met on the street. I don't give chase to rumors, or a podium to cranks....my new name for 'nobodys'
who is the pre-form of what....and what you are is a woman...period!!!!
ReplyDeletewell Joyce to be honest i cant remember how i added you and now it doesnt matter because to me we have known each other more like forever instead of a couple of months. I enjoy your company even though we dont chat much these days and you poetry i admire wholeheartedly becaue you speak (like myself) from the heart. I dont really care what other people think about you or anyone else on here I chose to learn about you for myself with just your words to guide me.
ReplyDeleteI dont like to be judged and so i dont pass judgement on others. I have only had the privelidge to talk to a few poeple on here and that's why i tend to be closer to them becaue I know them for the others hell i would love to get to know you and if you feel the same come holla at me ...myslef is my favourite subject lol.
I am crazy ..sexy ...cool didnt ya all know TLC was talking about me!
truth---Rick! Just the same as another of my gender.
ReplyDeleteEnchanting...TY for your love...Its so honest. I feel the same way about you....they cant tell me nothing about you. I'll find out for myself. (and we gonna have to work on that 'chat time'...LOL)
uh. is this on? Yeah well. this is Jus' Tammy. Geek, dork, dumbass, fatwhitechica in the corner that no one cares to know. Bad poetry rants and lowered expectations. But oh baby when I dream...yeah that's me. and still you invite me to your page. So I hope that 'Friend' is a term you use if you ever think of me. Most people don't think of me. I am the invisible girl. The throwaway child. Never asked to dance. almost but not quite. I don't generate grist for the rumor mill....they just laugh and look away. But like a stupidass dog...once you get past the smell and the fleas - I'm loyal and I just want to see you happy.
ReplyDeleteReally. Thats it. That's me.
Tammy...that's not at all how I see you. ANd, in my eyes you will neva be these things!
ReplyDeleteCOld, insensitive people throws stones. They dont look in mirrors...
To me you are a kind, open-hearted, fair, unique person who would rather laugh at life's craziness, and look on the bright side of the mess we, as humns, sometimes make of our lives...
Your gentle side is what drew me to you, and your determination. You don't let none of these harsh words stop you, even if they penetrate your shell...
IN you, I found a fair, forgiving, and funny friend. One that I will ALWAYS call my friend!
Thank you for hanging in there with me through some of the 'bullets' aimed at me, which did not kill me. matter of fact, they made me more impenetrable against shots fired aimlessly by crank snipers...LOL
"....If God is for us, He is MORE than the whole world against us..."