Choosing to Have a Mate or Being Single
The way we choose to love can be as unique as the way we choose to make a living, maintain our health, or entertain ourselves. Some choose to seek out a mate and enter into a partnership with a special individual, while others find immense satisfaction in staying single.
There is no right or wrong way to be in your life when it comes to deciding whether or not to be in a relationship, even though society tends to put an emphasis on romantic partnerships. Whether you choose to go through life as part of a romantic relationship or live as a single unit, there are benefits to both.
Feel free to be comfortable with whatever choice is right for you. Choosing to be single is a wonderful way to spend time discovering yourself. You have more time and space to figure out what and how you want your life to be without having to keep someone else’s choices in mind.
Being single gives you the freedom to do what you want at a moment’s notice and the pride that comes with facing life on your own terms. Companionship, support, and affection can be found while spending quality time with friends, colleagues, and relatives.
There is also the fun that comes with being able to date many different people without having to make a commitment. Choosing to have a mate, on the other hand, brings with it an opportunity to share your life with another person. There is comfort in the knowledge that you are facing the world with someone as a united front. When life is challenging, you are in a position to strengthen, as well as give each other comfort.
There is also the inevitable transformation of self that comes from allowing another person to so intimately be a part of your life.
Remember that what is right for one person may not be right for another, and people can transition between wanting to be with another person and wanting to be alone many times over the course of their lives.
Whether you seek out a mate or live the single life, embracing it fully will ensure that either choice is as fulfilling as possible for you.
What do you think?
this statement has a lot of meaning to me. before i met my wife, i spent 4 years by myself. it was fulfilling and i found out a lot about myself. i think that time alone has made me a better man. excellent post Ms. J.
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Santa may be a little late with that gift you were talking about.
Whether you seek out a mate or live the single life, embracing it fully will ensure that either choice is as fulfilling as possible for you.
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Gas, Your point is universal, whether for men or women, in taking time to find out what you like. Some need time to dispel the demons of the past, and get over the pain and disappointments. Either way, the only sure way we know we have a good head start in a new relationship, is to be ready for it. And, not out of loneliness, or needs
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Gas....Santa has been head butted, about keep forgetting my gifts. I will not take the same excuse over and over. lol lol lol
ReplyDeleteNaww, Imma get one, hopefully this week. lol
yes it is, jools. being true to whatever you want will make you more happier...
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lol...your are a card.....i hope he keeps his promise this go round or i'm gonna hafta book a flight to the north pole.
ReplyDeleteYou won't have to...just read the news...he will be slain in the snow!!!!!!!
ReplyDelete" Remember that what is right for one person may not be right for another, and people can transition between wanting to be with another person and wanting to be alone many times over the course of their lives. "
ReplyDeleteI think this statement is very true, for me. there are times when I just know I want to be single, and times, I just am so sad at the thought. I say, being born a twin, "I'm not meant to live alone..." lol
dats a good om
ReplyDeleteand i agree..sumtimes i wanna be single sumtimes i wanna be wit sumune..and sumtimes i really think im meant to b alone...funny thing: all is ok with me:)
ps very cool bg
ReplyDeleteThanks U. Love is a many splendid thing. You can discuss it til your lips turn blue, and wont be no farther than what you thinking...for today. lol
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ReplyDeleteThis was good. I agree with your post thoroughly.
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ReplyDeleteIdon't.....I thought it made alot of sense, also. Some advice I can understand. lol
ReplyDeleteThanks for the read...
The only thing that caught my eye is that part that was about wanting to be alone from time to time. Everyone needs their space, sure. That's why it's important that while you are "one" with another person you must always maintain a certain level of individuality so that you can still be the person you were before you got so wrapped up in your newly acquired other.
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I think this was one of my favorite OM's thanks for sharing Joycie
ReplyDeleteThank you for stopping by, grasshopper!
ReplyDeleteMissing your 'daily' presence...lol Praying you get that lil boat back to the dock soon...
*blushes & sighs*
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yeah...
ReplyDeleteMakes sense.... I am in the process of figuring out what is best for me
ReplyDeleteI love this. I am single and it's really ok. I would like to try being in a relationship at least one more time, but if not, I have prepared my mind and heart for the single life.
ReplyDeleteRae, that is one of the most important ways you can challenge yourself in the New Year...is to do you.
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Emaxi...I agree wholeheartedly! I am also single, and I would like to try it once again, too. I think I want the chance to make my own mistakes, and not be judged by my past experiences, or my present limitations
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I love this. Thanks so much for posting it! Just the space I am in right now...
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